Let’s smash right into this post. I’m going to enlighten you a little on TRUE enjoyment.
Inside all of us men there is a DEEP CHAMPION.
Underneath all the layers of social, external standards and THINGS - there is a CORE MAN, DEEP, DEEP underneath it all.
WARNING: I’m about to take you on a bit of a self discovery journey here. Now I am by no means what I call an “aura-guy”. I have trouble grasping anything too spiritual or airy-fairy. Out there in clubs and bars, hitting up girls and having an awesome time doing it is where my true love lays. As always, I love practical stuff that you can go out and try immediately - but in this post I really want to illustrate where the true FLAWLESS NATURAL comes from and how he can be awakened within you, now.
To start on this I need you to FORGET for a moment.
Forget the game.
Forget your job or circumstances.
Forget what you look like or the clothes you have on.
Forget the current physical shape you are in.
Forget where you think your life is heading.
Forget your friends and family.
Just forget it all. All I need is you…
There is an old school zen saying that really struck a chord with me when I read it:
NO ROOF OVER HEAD
NO GROUND UNDER FEET
NO ROOF OVER HEAD
NO GROUND UNDER FEET
Re-read the above until you connect with the core YOU. Imagine no roof, no sky, no anything above you - no ground to stand on, no earth below your feet.
Just YOU, suspended in a VOID.
This is where you connect to your DEEP CHAMPION. That man that is hidden deeply underneath the clutter of everyday life.
This man has so much going for him:
- He has PURPOSE
- He is HAPPY because he is ALIVE
- He moves you in the direction of your ‘bliss’
These are just some of the things your deep champion has going for you.
Lets look at the first thing, becuase this has the most relation to what I want to talk about.
He has PURPOSE.
I want you to think back to your last couple of approaches.
When you walk up to the girl, what is your PURPOSE?
Is it to get better at the game? if so then WHY?
Is it to get a girlfriend or have sex? if so then WHY?
Is it to get better social skills? if so then WHY?
Is it so you can bed 1000 women in a month? if so the WHY?
Is it so you can have ultrasupercool game like Tim or Tyler or anyone else?
What is your motivation?
This question is at the root of all successful or unsuccessful pickups, PERIOD.
Let’s illustrate here with two guys, Sam and Ben - they are both pretty much the same looking, same physical shape and same clothes. They both like sports and are what you would call a ‘regular dude’.
Sam has been learning pickup theory for a few months, he really wants to get good so he can show himself and his friends that he can get hot girls. He has never had a hot girlfriend and really wants one. Its a serious pain point in his life and he thinks about it constantly. One day he wants to be as good as pickup instructors or maybe even instruct himself in the future.
Ben has also been learning pickup theory for quite some time. He has never had a hot girlfriend or even been with a hot girl. Every night he goes to sleep imagining the smell and touch of a beautiful girl. He daydreams about it constantly. He is deeply motivated by the adventure and sense of wonder in getting beautiful women. One day he wants to find that blissful relationship that he can feel deep inside. She is out there. Somewhere.
Sam and Ben go to the same club, ‘Paradiso’ on a Saturday night.
Sam is first to get inside with his buddies. He is prepared for battle. All night he has been thinking about his game. Tonight he feels ON. He cant really concentrate on his friends because he is scanning the club for the next target.
Ben rolls up with his friends. He is joking around with his buddies and genuinely enjoying himself. In the back of his mind he is hoping to see some hot girls at the club, but is having fun anyway.
About half an hour in, an absolute stunner, Anna, walks in with her friends.
Sam sees her and his brain buzzes. She is a true HB10. He reels his mind for openers and chooses one and goes.
He approaches HARD and taps her, reeling off his canned opener that’s worked 1000 times before. She is a little stunned, but obliges with a response. Sam senses the vibe and goes for attraction. He busts on her about her body language to which she laughs. Sam decides now to go for phisical escalation. He puts his hand over her shoulder. Anna laughs and leaves it there but is wondering what this guy is doing. Sam starts telling Anna some stories and throwing some attract bits in there.
He is thinking “YES! my game is on FIRE tonight!”. She seems to be enjoying the interaction. Sam goes in for the kiss… She is caught a little off guard and tells Sam that she must go find her friends. Sam gets her number before she leaves to find her friends. Boom, solid number close… Sam is stoked.
About half an hour later Ben sees Anna up at the bar ordering a drink. He looks at her and is lovestruck. She hits him to his core. She has the perfect body, the right smile and the way she carries herself is immediately alluring to Ben.
He imagines himself pulling her in tight and passionately making out with her. Ben is also thinking about HER enjoying HIM as much as he enjoys her.
Ben knows he has to approach, despite of that fear creeping up inside his body. He must go now… He focuses on Anna like a LAZER, driven deeply by a sense of manliness inside. If anything, he will enjoy talking to such a fine girl. He goes in STRONG…
Ben: “Hey, I’m ben.”
Anna:”Oh hey. I’m Anna”
Ben: “Cool. Ya know, I was walking back to my friends, but I would KICK myself if I didnt come and meet you.
Anna: “haha. so where are you from?”
Ben instantley notices how good Anna smells. He quickly glances at her nice breasts tucked away behind a classy dress. His mind says “God I want to have sex with this girl”.
Ben is truely enjoying her. Every fibre of his BEING wants her. He is just EXCITED to be there in her presence.
They throw back conversation with each other easily. He is not agreeing with everything she says… quite the opposite, he is actually flirting with her on a number of random topics that come into his head. A little while later Anna’s friends come over to see where she is. Ben immediately introduces himself and has genuine interest in the friends, he pictures them as little cheerleaders for him and Anna hooking up.
She is loving it. He is too.
At a random rush of enjoyment Ben grabs the half full drink out of her hand and necks it. She hits him playfully. He snatches her hand and leads her to the dancefloor where he pulls her in tight to his chest. God she smells amazing.
At the height of both of their enjoyment, he pulls her in closer so her cheek is lightly brushing his. They are both getting ultra turned on. She loves the way he is leading and going for her without barriers. He angles his neck so their lips come together smoothly and they start passionately making out.
Time stands still. They feel like they are making out forever.
Anna’s friends come and drag her to the bathroom. She tells Ben to wait by the dancefloor. His friends come up to chat him. Meanwhile in the bathroom the girls are giggling about how cute Ben is and how she should totally go with him tonight. Anna says she will see where it goes.
Its getting late, so Ben decides as soon as she comes out of the bathroom to casually escort her out of the club back to his house.
All the way to the cab and back to the house they are close, making out, laughing and just having a fun, light time together.
Ben takes her to his room. He ravishes her the way he deeply knows how. She takes him with full enjoyment and ecstacy.
What was the core difference between Sam and Ben?
Their core motivation.
From the start, Sam didnt even really know his motivation or intention. He was worried about his game and not even enjoying the girl in front of him. He put his arm around the girl in an attempt to get physical. But what for? It was what I call the PURPOSELESS HAND OF DOOM.
Seems like Sam was the purposeless MAN of doom. He had the wrong intentions. His movements were not dictaed by the CORE DEEP CHAMPION INSIDE. They were dictated by some external worldly standards.
Anna felt it on some level. Something was Awry.
If Sam called Anna, she would flake.
Now Ben is in touch with his inner champion. His purpose: to ENJOY women and the adventure and beauty that accompanies them. He feels a deep passion for women. His understanding of women is not reliant upon mere pickup material - if the material doesnt gel with his deep, true champion - he doesnt even use it.
So Ben wins.
And, so does Anna.