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Natural Game - Approaching With The Lid Off Your Core

Hello to you,

Just got back from Santa Barbara, what a rad little town they have going there.
Bummed I didn’t get to see the nightlife but ahhh well.

I want to discuss something very important to me right now. Ripping the lid off your core man inside.

A lot of people watch programs about being a natural that are like 6 hours long with all sorts of
attitude adjustments and subtleties, but what they remember is ‘Approach by being yourself, without canned lines’.

They try it and it doesn’t work right away, and then they get confused.
This is because they’re understanding natural game IN REACTION to canned game,
and looking at WHAT NATURAL GAME IS NOT rather than looking at WHAT IT IS.
To make being a natural work, it’s not just about approaching with small talk, but with the lid off your core.

Say you get a Flawless Natural opener, like “Hey there, I’m Barry”.

You get all pumped up (WOOO!), run over to the girl and deliver.
She blows it off initially - so you go to the next girl, and the next, and the next.

Whoa all these blowouts. I guess Natural Game does not work.

Listen up.

Lets drill down to the core:

When you see a honey, what is the VERY first thing that comes to your mind?

- Ohhhhhh yum
- She looks AWESOME
- I would love to…
- YESSSS!
- Damn she is FINE

Or something like that. There is a split MILLISECOND when you lay your eyes on a girl
that your TRUE MANLY CORE talks to you. He gives you the right direction.

Now what happens after that first millisecond (most of the time)?
The mind of doom kicks in:

- Your not good enough
- What line should you use?
- Is your hair done good tonight?

List goes on…

But that first MILLISECOND where your core opens up (the DAMN SHE IS HOT) is where the power lies. The core tells you to ENJOY a girl. To go up FREE from petty restraints such as exactly what to say.

Sometimes I will blurt out things on my mind that have NOTHING to do with what we are talking about… that’s the lid off the core.

Opening girls with dumb stuff or general things that are going on in your world RIGHT NOW… that’s the lid of the core.

When the girl isnt acting favourable and you DONT CARE and just KEEP GOING because your are there not for her but as a CELEBRATION OF YOU… that’s the lid off the core.

With the lid off your core, you ride an awesome WAVE of you.

When you talk and act purely for your own enjoyment (but also to invite other people into your awesome world) you are coming from your core.

So when you go up and try this flawless natural style… go and FULLY put yourself out there. Instead of worrying about a girl opening up… OPEN YOURSELF UP.

The examples and material that you see on my blog are simply Tim with the lid off his core.

Take the lid off the core and let yourself ENJOY.

nT

My most prized possesions

 By far the best posessions I have owned this year have been:

Drumroll please…

My notebooks!

If there was one single habit that i’m so blissfully happy I nailed this year it would be consistently jotting every thought down in my tiny notebooks.

I carry around these superslim backpocket notebooks and pen EVERYWHERE as a habit for the last six months.

Every time I have a little thought on the Flawless Natural Method I write it down…

Every time i’m in the club and I say something money I pause the girl, pull out my book and write that down. I actually lost ZERO girls doing this and I thought it was funny…

Every time something cool happens in the club or throughout the day I write it in…

 I only write one or two sentence notes and I can usually fit in around 5 notes per page. It’s simply a tool to jog my memory.

The awesome material does not come from sitting at home thinking about awesome material. It comes when you least expect it - maybe i’ll be on the way to the gym and BOOM an epiphany fires off in my brain that i’ll write down.

I’m sure this has happened to you and you just didnt know where to put the idea, then before you know it - POOOOOF - GOOOOOONE.

You must take it EVERYWHERE you go as a habit for it to work. The key is to buy some pads that you really like and your actually going to use. They must be pocket sized and slim so they dont bulge out your pocket. You can get packs of 5 for $3.00ish anywhere.

Tyler is the one who suggested I do it while I was creating the Flawless Natural Method, it made such a smashing difference to that and also my world.

Its amazing how many things I just did not remember. I flick back to a week ago and I’ll find a wicked little thought that I forgot and then am SO happy I wrote that stuff down. Little stories, adventures, stuff I need to remember.

If you really want to smoothen out your success with women then start writing everything down. Even the bad stuff, like when you feel chode. The mere WRITING of “i feel kinda chode in the club tonight” distances yourself from the feeling in your head and can actually put you into state!

Use the notes to track your progress and fuel your future.

Here are the 4 steps to notedeuxe:

1. Go to chodestore and get 5 slim backpocket notebooks and SMALL (halfsize) pens.

2. Make sure before you leave the house that the book and pen are in your back pocket ALL THE TIME - NO EXCEPTIONS

3. Record EVERYTHING. Even stuff that you think is kinda irrelevant - if you find your self asking “should I write that?” the answer is ALWAYS YES!

4. Pick a day at the end of the week where you do a NOTEBOOK DUMP. This can be into a bigger notebook or even a word document on your computer.

I even have small labels I put on each little note in my notebook. For example if something relates to pickup I put a big (P) next to the note. If it relates to money I put a big (M). If it relates to urgent stuff I need to remember I put a (U*).

You get the drift. Get on it.

 nT

Kicking the shoes off. (Minimal game explained)

Hello there.

I want you to remember the most recent time you went to a persons house or apartment for the very first time. Maybe you didnt even know that person very well…

Most of the time it goes like this:

You step inside after a brief lecture of how sorry they are that their house is a mess (even though most of the time its in totally pristine shape).

Following that is the tour of everything; “Here is the bed, here is the kitchen, oh let me show you where the toilet is… would you like to sit here? or here?”. Along the way, of course, there is running commentary on EVERY item in the place. It gives that weird vibe in the air where the host is trying to show you their most prized space and worrying what the guest thinks, while the guest is actually trying not to trip over anything or say the wrong thing about the wierd painting on the wall.

Its uncomfortable for both guest AND host.

My question is why is it so uncomfortable?

Let me tell you a story about my buddy ‘Natural Sean’. This guy ALWAYS has the hottest girlfriends. A true flawless natural. He is a magnet and I couldnt understand his magnetic magical power until recently.

Anyway Sean invited me over to his place for a quiet few drinks with some friends. He aswered the door with a big hello, telling me to kick my shoes off anywhere I like. I put them neatly at the front door as he grabs his arm around my neck and drags me inside. Sean has scruffy hair and has such a laid back, cruisey energy that you can’t help but feel relaxed around him.

He leads me straight through the house, no commentary, no tour, just out the back to where we end up sitting. Without saying a word he jumps up and fixes us a drink… chatting about nothing in particular as he goes. Awesome. I immediately feel comfortable and decide that THIS is the way to bring girls to your house.

It wasnt a special house, it was actually kinda messy. Although it had one thing: A special VIBE. That vibe was total comfort. He wasnt trying to make his place seem great - it was great because we were there. That is all.

He had that vibe in everything he did. His car was RUBBISH but for some reason it seemed cool because it was his and HE thought it was cool. He made no attempt to say it was the best, or the worst. It was what it was, and he was happy with that.

When you were around this guy it seemed like nothing else was needed in the world. He wasnt talking about how busy he was in the future or about past things. Sean lives for the very second he is in, he ENJOYS every second. Minimal game at its finest.

Amazed at this I started adopting the ‘kick the shoes off’ minimal game practice throughout EVERYTHING I did when dating girls.

When I approached a girl in a bar or club, I would talk to her like it was my house and I wasnt TRYING to get her to like it. I just AM. And happy to be that too, thankyou.

When I called a girl in the phone, I simply said what was needed in that moment. “Hey there, what are you up to?… Oh cool… Yeah, come hang out”. Strictly no swirly lines or stories or anything - just cruisey, laid back, GIVING VIBE the whole way.

When I bought a girl to my house, I just threw my shoes off and made no attempt to clean up or explain the dirty socks on the floor. I would sit myself down with no fuss, she followed and sat too. I was comfortable therefore SHE was comfortable.

The result: my happiness and game skyrocketed.

The lesson: DONT TRY SO MUCH! Be happy with what is happening. Enjoy.

As soon as there is that TRYING vibe coming off you (like your trying to get pickup lines, or routines, or a pickup concept to work) - then the girl will feel exactly like the uncomfortable house guest, and you will feel like the uncomfortable host.

What are some of the ways that YOU can start ENJOYING? Comments please.

kick those shoes off!

nT

Quickfire sexual intent technique

 

Hello matey!

How are you today? I am smashing.

Just come off the New York Superconference and exhasted but fully GLOWING inside. Its that great exhaustion like you have just lifted weights or finished a big project.

The cats over in NY town are cool as hell, it was great to meet you all!

Let me start this quickfire technique with a question:

How is your sexual intent going?

When you are talking to a girl you have just approached, do you have that FURY and FIRE blazing up every fiber of your body? That DANGEROUS FURY that You want her, and it shows as clear as a tigers eyes focusing on its next wild prey. She feels it and it strikes a deep chord with her - you are not like any other man. You can be a man, she can be a woman.

Something DEEP inside your core of MAN is moving you to her. Moving the interaction forward. And guess what? she wants to move with you.

The reason I put pictures of hot girls at the top of a lot of my posts is to SNAP you out of whatever you are doing and remind you why you are here with me, on the journey!

You CANNOT have a sucessful pickup without CORE MANLY SEXUAL INTENT.

It starts INWARD and then displays OUTWARD. I wanted to share with you just one of the ways in which I generate it inward, in myself.

one of my favourite images: man

Now, there is so much going on in your head before and during an approach that it is easy to get distracted away from that core MANLY FURY that drives the deep feeling inside.

You start thinking on surface levels. Like, how is the conversation going? what do I say next? is she attracted to me? am I cool enough?… these games you play in your head dissolve the true passion that ignites and drives the interaction to the bedroom.

SO here it is. Quickfire focus: Sexual Intent

GOAL:

Core FURIOUS sexual INTENT. The girl feels like you are DEEPLY attracted to her and will go to the ends of the earth to pursue her all the way to the bedroom.

Whatever it takes. You are DANGEROUS.

STEPS:

1. As you are talking to the girl, ask yourself - why am I talking to her?
2. ANY ANSWER other than: I WANT HER NAKED IN MY BEDROOM TONIGHT is WRONG and YOU are lacking in your core INTENT. You are also LYING TO YOURSELF and HER. She will sense something is awry, you are typical ‘conversation man’ - asexual.

3. To BOOST intent, start looking at the girls lips while you talk to her. Really focus on them. Now don’t be a WEIRD lip-leerer, just look at her eyes, but make a conscious decision to focus on her lips around 80% of the time.

Physiologically what this does is send signals directly to the part of your brain controlling sexual agressiveness in men. Like a light switch it will snap you out of “conversation man” who has no purpose or direction.

Its crazy how effective something this simple is.

I have seen crazy differences in effectiveness in myself and bootcamp students by following this general rule.

LOOK AT LIPS and FLICK THE SEXUAL SWITCH.

Try it on your next approach!

More this week.

nT

Free Download: Flawless Natural Teleseminar

 

Hello there!

 I have been so excited about unleashing the ‘Flawless Natural’ method on the world that we have decided to offer the recent teleconference for FREE play and download…

CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD 

Also, don’t forget to hit up www.rsdsummerspecial.com to see the absolute glory on offer. Summer love time!

 nT

 PS. Keep checking in for blog updates. Im on here at LEAST three times a week or more! full flawless natural material - direct from the field.

The POUNDING of PASSION (outer game)

Hello you,

Another exciting week geared up in the flawless natural camp. Thanks to all the guys who attended the teleconference of DESIRE last week, and of course, all the champs now rockin’ with my facebook.

I’m in LA right now gearing up for the New York Superconference this friday, but wanted to hit you up with another little piece that we teach on these new flawless natural programs.

I realised it on the bootcamp I did a couple of weeks ago - its call the Pounding of Passion, and it is potent as hell.

I personally love the DIRECT, QUICK and APPLICABLE outer game type in-field stuff so this will be no exception - wooo!

Those of you who are familliar with the Transformations DVD series that I am featured on will remember that to show INSTANT masculine manly dominance, your bodylanguage and tonality should be projected slightly downwards or “breaking rapport”.

When you approach a girl with COMMANDING tonality and presence, you immediately establish the ROLES for you and her to play within the interaction.

So if you step to her with a HIGH command of voice that CUTS over music and turns peoples heads, then you will be able to establish that you are a guy who leads, is dominant, confident and therefore attractive.

This is all done within the first couple of seconds of meeting.

Here is a quickfire way to establish the commanding and leading role within any conversation with a girl.

The pounding of passion:

The basic system is this…

- At any point in the conversation, cut it off by saying “Wait, Wait, Wait!”

- From a dominant standpoint ask ANY random question like “What is your favourite colour?” (she will look like WTF?!)

- Immediately after her answer ask another question that is totally off topic like “What did you have for dinner last night?”

- Then keep pounding with about 3 more random questions. The key is that they are totally unrelated and that she is curious as to why you are asking.

- At the end, finish off with an excuse to like her and also ESCALATE physically. It could be as simple as “You like blue, ok, we can be together!” (*grabs hand*).

Here is an example play-by-play:

Her: “So anyway about my…”
You (cutting in): “WAIT WAIT WAIT!”
her: *stunned*
You: “What is your favourite colour?”
her: “ummm purple”
You: “Cool, now whats your best friends name?”
her: “aaghhh katie - why!?”
You: “Shhhhhhhh! now, what was your first pet?”
her: “A fish - what is this question for?”
You: “shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! now, have you ever been in a fight?”
her: “haha, Oh god No!”
You: “Ohhhh ok, I can trust you now!” (*puts hand around girl and pulls her in*)

If you get it right, when you SHHHHHH her she will be laughing and super curious as to where you are going with all of this.

Now the cool thing is that after this little pounding of passion, you have established the LEADER ROLE.
The leader role is CRUCIAL for you to establish before you can move the girl around or even go back to your place.

You are saying that YOU are the man. The leader. The guy that makes it happen.

She will appreciate it VERY much.

Go try it out tonight! and stay tuned this week champs!

nT

the OBLIVIOUS DICK-LEAD DELUXE

 Hey champs, 

Wanna know a cool technique from the secret vault of the flawless naturals?

Haha of course. Especially if it has such a delightful name such as ‘Oblivious Dick-lead Deluxe’ or simply, ODD.
Something I have observed in myself and other ‘naturals’ is this wickedly cool and dangerously attractive trait.

Now have you ever noticed how some guys - no matter what they do - have a CRAZY MAGNETISM to them?
Like they wont be doing ANYTHING and sure enough you see girls gravitate towards him.

Would you like that power? yep… go ODD.

Would you like to build more core sexual manly intent? yep… go ODD.

Would you like to make girls snap into a sexual state with you instantly? yep… go ODD.

SO how do we go ODD Natural Tim?

I will illustrate with a simple little story from the field (cos that’s where all this stuff is built, ya know).

We were out this weekend on bootcamp when I saw the coolest thing: The green man of fury.

I was talking to some girls who recognised me from another night out. They had some aussie dudes with them who were chill so I was just making friends
and shooting the shit, had no real passion for any of the girls but they were fun and the main group of the bar.

Anyway as im chatting to one girl out of the corner of my eye I spot this MASSIVE OLDER MAN in an eye-hurtingly bad green polo shirt.
He was around 40 in age and looked like he had spent way too much time in the sun. Lets just say badly aged + green scary shirt.

NOTE: Picture for illustrative purposes only

But he was the GREEN MAN OF FURY because he was ODD.

I spied him approach a girl on the stool at the bar. Oh man it was AWESOME. He rolls RIGHT UP TO HER FACE and looks fully oblivious like kinda stoned
but FULLY UNREACTIVE. In a breaking rapport type way he says “hey!” and just sits there staring at her. She perks up and starts talking, even though he is
creepily close all up on her… she is asking HIM questions, SHE is doing ALL THE TALKING and he is getting closer and closer and closer.
Her friends see it and think “who is this creepy man!!!??” but they dont stop it because she is LOVING IT.

He has barely said a word.

Anyway his mate distracts him so off he goes for a bit, looking instantly like he forgets about the girl.

Then 2mins later she is talking to her friends and he SWOOPS AGAIN. Cutting right into the group like they arent even there and just again “Hey…”
She laughs and laughs. The dude is FULLY LEAD BY HIS DICK and OBLIVIOUS TO ANYTHING ELSE. But they are loving it.

This continues, his mates pull him away… then boom he comes out of nowhere and swoops again.
The girls pretend like they want to get away from him but he is completely oblivious… just keeps going and going after her. Not even saying much.

Here is his power:

- He makes absolutley no excuses for wanting to get her
- He is FULLY PRESENT and only cares about his dick getting sucked
- (this is big) He is completely comfortable letting the VIBE get fully WEIRD… like everyone KNOWS that all he wants is to get laid
but because he is so oblivious he turns them into SPECTATORS. Like if you were to ask him he would say “Yeah, so what!? im getting her”.

The absolute best naturals I have seen all have this ‘ODD’ quality. They dont talk much. They dont do much. They do the minimal that is required… but they
GO AFTER IT HARD. Not FAST. HARD and PERSISTENT. Completely oblivious to anything other than their goal (including looking weird or crazy or creepy) and
they fact they do look crazy or weird and they are completely blind to it MAKES them fully attractive.

On a deeper level it shows the girl that this man goes for what he wants to the exclusion of everything else. This is VERY attractive.

A WICKED example of ODD is Robbie Williams (video courtesy of Tylers blog).

Robbie is full ODD here.

The BEST guys I have seen are just full ‘eyes on the prize’ and oblivious to anything else. Massively attractive.

Something to think about and try next time your out:

- Just allow yourself to ZONE OUT of everything except the girl you see.

- Let your core manly sexual intent build up… check her out

- ONLY THINK SEXUAL. SEXUAL SEXUAL SEXUAL. Literally feel yourself and her back on your bed.

- Roll up and look right in her eye and say “Hey!” in a full glorious tone.

- Smooth, slow and deliberate movements and bodylanguage

- Your vibe should indicate that she is in immediate danger of being shagged out the back behind a dumpster

GOAL: See how LITTLE talking and movement you can get away with. You know the vibe is perfect when she starts asking you questions and talking more than you are. Your basically a horny shark ready to CHOMP. CHOMP DELUXE!

This is pretty fun guys but can be difficult to pull off. You must be in a fully NON THINKING STATE. The key is not to THINK about it while you are doing it. Think sex, think sex, think sex.

OBLIVIOUS DICKLEAD DELUXE TIMES !

nT

CHERISHING in the night

cherish in the night

                                                                                 Worth the cherish? I think so…

Hello there, how are you today? I am fine.

I have my boy Ryan here staying with me in LA for a week of scalliwagging.

Its great to be back here in Los Angeles hitting it up… we were talking about our travels and happenings from the field
which I wanted to share. Also throwing in some random shots of the travels.

Ryan and I ran our first bootcamp together in Vancouver, Canada which is a really cool city. It was my birthday that night and they had
a freak snowstorm.

We are doing our thing with our glorious clients and I see some stuff that is FULLY interesting: CHERISHING IN THE NIGHT

wooo

BACKGROUND: We have a new name for girlfriends now, they are called “Cherishes“. I have a cherish in Australia, Tyler has his cherish and so does Jeffy.

Now cherishing is all well and good. I enjoy it a lot. But cherishing AS SOON AS YOU MEET THE GIRL IS BAD NEWS.

RULE: Do not think/talk/ponder/worry or do anything regarding a girl unless you have first established the masculine role.
In pretty much all cases this means before you can cherish or go into a cherish frame you must have had sex first.

Have you ever picked up a girl, got her number or whatever and then thought about her constantly? or not even constantly.
Maybe you played movies in your mind of you two in different situations, going on dates, her meeting your mother, etc.

Then when you go to call her up its all WEIRD. You fumble around the phone, stutter when you talk - HORRIBLE.

Your mind places the girl in a girlfriend frame

And so this is what I call ‘CHERISHING IN THE NIGHT’.

full cherish

Now I cover this fully in the ‘Flawless Natural Superconference’ however I wanted to illustrate with this recent example:

So back to Ryan and I out on bootcamp…

Im right up in a girls face kissing her while winging a client when out of the corner of my eye I notice Ryan walking around with another
cute girl hand in hand. I remember thinking to myself “awww that looks cute”.
Anyway the night progresses and again I see Ryan and this girl - they look cuter than ever. In fact they kinda look ‘in love’.
They are making out and gazing into each others eyes and all that.

Uh oh. CHERISHING.

She looks fully melting in his arms and so happy - like they have been together forever. Awwwwwww.

SO anyway im doing my thing demolishing this place… im walking up to random girls with my new opener “Im sad I need a kiss” and making out with them
then going to the next girls and doing the same.

(PS this new opener is killer: “Im sad. I need a kiss” then you get them to kiss each cheek. Then lips. They will fight the lips and you simply say
“But im sad!” and boom go right in for it. Your clearly not sad and just being a crazy guy. Beautiful.)

So at some point Ryan intros me to the girl and she stands beside me, he goes off to help out a client and she is left there with me.

Im talking for a bit then notice another cutey walking past… BOOOOOOOM I grab her, sad need a kiss, makeout then throw her back into the crowd all happy.

RIGHT AFTER THIS Ryans girl grabs my arm and looks me right in the eye and says “Whoa, you’re agressive, I like agressive”. Oh shit now she is all over my arm.

POOOOOOF I eject on her and go back to clients waiting till the end of the night to tell Ryan what happened.

Turns out that later she gives Ryan the excuse of “But you are leaving tomorrow, I cant go home with you, we will never work out!”.

AAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH there it is…. the CHERISHING IN THE NIGHT has killed him.

More?

Because he put her into a cherish (girlfriend) frame she is fully playing that frame and so cannot sleep with him. Now if I had a shot, who knows?

Different frame = Different Results.

See with me im just coming across as a fun, dominant man who is following his core sexual intent. I have no outcome with the girl other than fun THAT night.
They feel that way and act accordingly.

I remember how this used to destroy me back in the early days when I would tell the girl “wow I really like you a lot” within 5 minutes of meeting her.
This meant she had expectations to live up to and so it would rarely work.

No expectations on the girl = full trust from the girl.

Since then there has been no Cherishing in the Night from mr. Ryan deluxe and there should be none for you too.

The LORD of the club does not cherish. No no no.

lordig

As a general rule its not until after the first sex can you start to go the cherish route.
Why though? the girl needs to know you are truley a champ and can get girls - not some chode trying to find his cherish lover in the nightclub.

 So ultimately its up to you guys on how you want to be percieved but here are some simple guidelines:

 DO’s and DO NOT’s

DO kiss her for fun in the club

DO NOT make out tenderly for four hours

DO show her that you are fully interested in her NOW

DO NOT start talking about future plans and dates and how much of a match you are

DO lead her around dominant style

DO NOT prance around the club like you have finally found that special girl…

You get the drift…

What are your guys thoughts and experiences with this ?

Travels from Japan coming next, ‘wooo’ you soon…
loving the comments

nT

Creativity. The ONLY thing that matters.

Im about to get a bit personal on you :)

A lot of the stuff I teach is a pure reflection of what goes on in my own world.

Here is the general philosophy…

The Flawless Natural: Focusing on positive aspects of moving towards a greater vision. A vision of YOU as a smooth, naturally attractive man. Rather than focusing on negative points that externally confirm the existence of YOU SUCKING.

Its all based on the general premise that ‘What you think about in life - YOU GET’.

What I am trying to communicate through his blog or through a Flawless Natural Bootcamp or the upcoming conference is point out that you actually are a CHAMP!

Empowering the INNER MAN of GLORY and eliminating the INNER BITCH of DOOM.

There is no point focusing on EXTERNAL things that point towards you sucking. Because you will find a million of them.

- Maybe you approached a girl last week and she didnt want to talk to you… waa waaa little baby YOU MUST SUCK HUH
- Maybe one of your little toes is bigger than your big toe… oh no! girls might not like that YOU MUST SUCK HUH
- Maybe you have never kissed a hot girl… OMG! YOU MUST SUCK HUH
- Maybe you have a shitty apartment or live with your parents… DAMN girls dont like that YOU MUST SUCK HUH
- Maybe you have never done an approach… wow YOU MUST SUCK HUH.

The list goes on forever. Heres my point: THIS THINKING IS POINTLESS AND RETARTED AND WILL KILL YOU.

The key is to focus on INTERNAL things that point toward you being DELUXE. After all, YOU are the only constant in this game that you can actually manage or enhance. The rest (girls/environment/external) are all VARIABLES that you cannot control.

I have always said that the one difference between the guys that are good and they guys that are SUPERFLY DELUXE is one thing: CREATIVITY.

When you walk into a club and there are 1000 chodes and 3 girls… its CREATIVITY that will win.

When your night is SUCKING and you are totally in your head… its CREATIVITY that will win.

When you have the girl but her friends are pulling her away… its CREATIVITY that will win.

When you have the same EQUAL VERBAL THINGS TO SAY as the next guy (routines?)… what will separate you? yep. CREATIVITY.
So then… how is creativity built or, better yet, CULTIVATED?

Firstly its hard to DEFINE creativity or how to generate it. Its something that happens SPONTANEOUSLY and this can be very elusive.

Lets look at “the game of pickup”, for example.
Ever since the first how to date girls books came out we men have been trying to STRUCTURE a way to get them consistently.
Which is cool and fair enough but also leads to its own sets of problems.

You see when you DEFINE something and try and put a box or structure around it, you are forcing yourself to follow a RIGID set of rules.

Therefore your thought patterns follow very stright lined, outcome oriented thinking. It looks like this:

Example of this thinking in its application (i.e what your mind says):

GOAL: Makeout and get with the girl.

Process: Approach and Open with Opener. Then Attract with attract stuff. Then Close using Close stuff.

Outcome: Kissing the girl.

What normally ends up happening is this. You see the girl then your head goes ok now what opener should I use, then what? hmm maybe a story… then ill do my famous swirly whirly routine and then ill close with the superman makeout tactic! (i made these names up btw there is no such thing… you nerd you)

The point is YOUR MIND TRIPS OVER ITSELF. You get INSIDE YOUR HEAD and outcome oriented. Then by the time you approach, the girl can smell that your not being genuine and probably actually being flat out creepy or weird (especially if your running background processes like monitoring your own body language and other useless things).

Ok - Here is what flawless natural thinking looks like:

It is completely free flowing in the moment. It deals with lifes situations and events as SOON AS THEY ARISE, with flexability and ease because there is no thinking about them in the future. See the post below “Spontaneous lovestruck”.

Here is what the mind does in relation to pickup (the opposite of outcome oriented):

P.s you get to read an exact snapshot of my inner dialogue here:

Wow im in a club… woooo!… high five my friend…. lets chat to my friend… i like my friend… ohhh awesome look at that chair ahhahha what a silly looking chair… sorry now back to my friend…. cool… ohhh this is fun… wow my shoes are brown that is funny…. “hmmm i was wondering about sea creatures the other day - there is some WEIRD SHIT going on in the sea”… i like lizards too… oh wait ! damn LOOK AT THAT GIRL SHE IS FUCKING HOT…. YESSSSSS…. GO FOLLOW THE GIRL… MUST TALK TO HER…. YUM… “Hey i just had to come meet you i’m Tim!”… “you like sea creatures dont you hahahahah”…. “come here love… kiss me”…..”hahahahah”… this is weird she wont kiss me yet ahhhh well soon enough… “so back to you and me…what was your name again?”

My head is like a MAGIC EIGHT BALL. I shake it and whatever floats to the surface I do. I trust that somewhere in the void of my mind something cool will float to the surface.
Something cool to say, or do, or whatever in that exact event or situation.

If something cool/positive/fun doesnt float to the surface - i shake it again :)

More on cultivating a life of spontenaity later. Thanks for stopping by!

Thoughts? Comments? Love hearing from you.

nT

“Spontaneous Lovestriking” (implementing the natural)

thank god for sweden

Ahh hem…Im super excited to get talking about this - did i mention that i like Sweden…. anyway

In the previous post I stated that in “SEEKING to become a natural with women, you are actaully DENYING in your own mind that you are a natural ALREADY”.

If you have seen my Transformations piece released by RSD, this is the same as accepting that your GAME IS A 10.

And yes I KNOW this is a hard statement to grasp and actually apply. VERY hard in fact because it seems so SIMPLE.
You see on the surface it gives you that feeling of massive epiphany…

“wow YES its all inside me ALREADY! I can feel it!” but then you might see a girl and your brain goes “whoooa hold on mr pick up artist YOU ACTUALLY SUCK.” and boom game over.

So here is the way I personally implement this so it works and becomes engrained.

Number 1: I wish to have massive fun for MYSELF as much as possible. Whether that means joking around with my friends OR just smiling to myself and enjoying the environment im in, to creating FUN from NOTHING like naming things the VENUE OF DOOM or the TABLE OF DESIRE, etc… stuff that makes me chuckle inside.

This means forgetting about everything (including the women if I am in a club) except for stuff that amuses me. You should feel a glowing little smile inside yourself. Maybe even a cheeky smile. When you get good at it, you can generate the cheeky happy smile inside in under a second NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE. Try it.

This is a crucial first step which we go into depth on the Flawless Natural bootcamp but you get the idea.

Then…

There is a CATALYST from this fun that your having inside yourself to the then meeting women. Because you are now your OWN party (on the inside anyway) you now need a way
to attract a women into your fun little micro world you have going on.

Now what normally happens when you see the Swedish love princess above out at a club?

Your being the party… but you also FREEZE UP when you see her. Your brain SHUTS YOU DOWN because of her beauty or whatever.

But what if we stopped this automatic freezeup program the brain does and replaced it entirely ? Using its freezing mechanism against itself ?

I call this catalyst the SPONTANEOUS LOVESTRUCK and it further enhances your self amusing ability.

Here are the specific steps:

1. (refer to above point, get that cheeky smile on the inside)
2. Spot a hottie, walking by or standing somewhere, or in a group or wherever
3. Allow yourself to be “Lovestruck” STOP. PAUSE AND DRINK HER IN FOR A SECOND. DONT FIGHT IT… inside you should be saying things like
“Damnnnn she is HOT”, “WOW look at that ass”, “Whoa YUM”, “MMM MMM MMMMMMMM YESSSSSS”

(should look a bit like this)

4. Harness the lovestruck energy inside BE POSSESED BY IT for a split second - feel it burning you up as a man… imagine her NAKED in YOUR BED
5. Listen to your inner MAN… like “Ohhhh I GOTTA get that”
6. JUST GO without anything else on your mind. LITERALLY. NO THINKING of ANY SORT - even what you are going to say. Its actually BEST if you DONT KNOW what you are going to say to her.
7. You must trust in that energy 100%

Ok seven steps but really it all happens in ONE SECOND.

<<Short version>>

You are feeling awesome because of the little smile inside > You see a hottie and feel even more awesome > You go up as fast as you can to get her NOTHING will stop you on your quest for glory !

Then what ?

“Hey my name is Tim, I just HAD to come and meet you”

All that BEAMING energy and CORE SEXUAL INTENT inside will be translated through your TONALITY and BODYLANGUAGE and she will open right up. It will feel spontaneous to YOU and HER and this is important - it will feel totally in the moment.

You cannot have one without the other.

BEAMING energy + CORE SEXUAL INTENT = AWESOME BODY LANGUAGE + WICKED TONALITY

Have you ever felt weird opening over your shoulder or indirectly or with some scripted line? Yep… cos it kills your core spontenaity and sexual intent.

What about when you have been talking to a girl forever all indirect and then at some point realise you have to turn sexual… bzzzzt. Nope.
She would have appreciated you as a MAN a lot more if you had of been straight up sexual from the start.
When did men become such pussies that they could not approach straight up sexual in a playful way that is not creepy or weird but just IS ?

You see… if I make a list of body language traits that you should avoid while talking to a girl like DO NOT lean IN, DO NOT approach directly, DO NOT wave your arms around, DO NOT talk queitly…. arrrghhhh the list goes on.

This sort of self-monitoring list KILLS beaming energy and core sexual intent.

Have you ever been talking to a girl thinking “I hope my body language is good… now what do I say next…”?
Then you will notice that that kills your interaction. She doesnt feel core manly passion coming from you therefore no reciprocating female passion will come your way!

It has to be totally in the moment.

The key with it is you are not “Gaming” or “Running a Set” or “in Pickup mode” or whatever. You are 100% enjoying the interaction with the girl nothing more nothing less. When it all comes down to it - you need to remember that you want to be bedding these girls and enjoying the whole interaction.

Then the third step is creating the BUBBLE OF LOVE around you and the girl so that nothing can get in the way of you two hooking up… but ill leave that for another day :)

Happy lovestriking :)

nT