Have you ever noticed that whenever you have a personal epiphany, it never happens when you are just sitting around watching TV or hanging
at your house. It happens when you are MOVING, WALKING or in the shower or doing something else. Definitely NOT when you sit around waiting for a good idea.
I had an epiphany the other day while on my way to grab a coffee that I thought would be a wicked perspective for you on Natural Game.
Attraction between a man and a woman occurs when there are clear POLAR OPPOSITES.
The two separate poles are MASCULINE and FEMININE.
Now as a dude, to the core, most of us have a masculine tendancy.
However you can also have a bias towards feminine and that’s ok too.
For the purposes of this article I will discuss you as being a MASCULINE male.
What comes into your mind when you think of the word MASCULINE?
Goes after what he wants.
Ok, so what comes into your mind when you thing of the word FEMININE?
You get the picture.
Now, on a deeper level. A man MUST follow his core PURPOSE.
That is whatever he chooses to be his LIFE CRAFT.
You could be a Lawyer, Dentist, Businessman, Musician, whatever.
My life craft for the last six years has been learning and coaching being successful with woman. My other craft is also a house music DJ.
What is YOUR life craft?
Have YOU looked deep inside and DECIDED that this is my craft?
If not, you may be killing yourself.
The key is YOU decide it - nobody external can decide it for you.
Your parents, friends and family may want a craft for you but ultimately for you to be fulfilled as a man - YOU must choose your craft.
Let me ask you another question:
Are you following your craft with absolute passion and energy?
Look again at some of the words that describe the masculine:
Do you feel these types of things on a regular basis with your craft?
Now for the important part: How this relates to attracting women.
Look at this diagram:
This attraction circle represents a deeper core level of attraction that a woman will feel for a MAN. A man truley aligned with his craft.
Here is the order:
1. It starts with YOU the MAN focusing SOLEY on your CRAFT.
2. This craft may or may not be VISIBLE to the WOMAN.
(I’ll explain the importance of visibility in a second)
3. The woman focuses on the MAN and can see him firmly rooted in his CRAFT
The key: VISABILITY.
A woman must see you firmly rooted in your craft (yourself).
Does this mean she has to see you at your desk job plugging away?
There are 2 types of visibility: 1. Physical 2. Implicit.
1. Physical Visability. She actually SEES you at your craft.
Where hopefully you are displaying those MASCULINE properties outlined above.
You are speaking at a conference on business.
You are a DJ and are owning the room.
You are a bringing in sales.
You are playing basketball or some sport and doing well.
You are a rockstar.
Notice the socially most attractive crafts have the highest PHYSICAL VISABILITY?
E.g. You are a rockstar. Up there performing your craft in front of thousands.
Pretty damn attractive.
Hold up. I don’t want you all to run out and start learning the guitar just yet.
2. Implicit Visability
Now this one is very potent on a micro level.
When you walk up to a woman, and approach with a certain intensity and tonality, you can INSTANTLY communicate the same vibe as a guy with high visability.
You can actually go up to a girl and say “Hey, I’m Joe” and immediately communicate that you are one of THOSE GUYS.
For example, say Tom Cruise (whatever you think of him) was on an island where nobody knew who he was. Would he walk up to a girl and be all nervous because they don’t know who he is?
No. He would walk over as he would to anyone - assuming they know who he is!
Think about the certain tone of voice, the ease of bodylanguage and communication of all of those masculine traits.
The two things I want you to get out of today’s article are these:
1. Are you living to your craft?
What happens when you take your eyes off your craft and let a woman become your core focus? disaster. I remember when I made a girlfriend my sole purpose and focus back in the day - the result: she cheated on me with a loser.
Pick your craft. Be disciplined. Own it like a man should.
2. How perceptively VISIBLE are you?
When you walk up and talk to a girl does she get the FEELING that you are a sought after/visible guy who can handle himself and his craft?
Hope this stirs some thinking
Post up a comment and let me know what YOU think