Archive for January, 2009

Everyone is born with 50 points

 

Hello you.

So you are back for another flawless natural living plan pointer eh?

I don’t blame you. This is some awesome crew we have here joining the journey!

Today’s gift comes to you today from Tyler, My housemate Rion and Myself.

I was out the other night in Melbourne catching a DJ that we really like when we got on the topic of why dudes struggle with girls.

Granted, this lad Rion has never been in the situation of struggling for women. He has always had the same girlfriend for as long as I remember. But he gets approached and girls throw him the eyes of desire all the time.

He chooses his relationship and has never once doubted it. So therefore she never doubts him.

They don’t see each other everyday and have a healthy space between them for them both to do their work and hang with friends. It’s a model cherish relationship.

cherishing in the night

 

You can tell that the guy is just at peace with where he is at in the club that the girls just roll up on him constantly. He will harmlessly flirt for a bit before cutting it off at the right point without any harm to anyone. Its really cool to see and we have a great time together.

So there is this flawless natural style concept that we were throwing around in the club and it is something that Tyler and I talked about on our very first meeting in Los Angeles back in 2002.

I believe this is the key to Rion’s success and could unlock a new way for yourself.

He said that he has always believed that you are born with say, 50 points to allocate to certain categories in your character.

Tyler believes this too.

Some guys are more funny and higher energy than others. Some are more serious yet charismatic. Some are more relaxed while others are lively. Some are tuned in to culture and arts while others are more into cars and drinking beer.

The thing is, all of these guys get laid by the type of girl they attract into their point allocation characters.

You know those girls that are rev-heads and into big muscles and cars. You also know those girls who are studious and like a more knowledgeable man.

Let me clarify.

If you were to look at the broad spectrum of attributes that a mans character can have:

Charisma, Humor, Alphaness, Risk-taker, Relaxed, Energetic, Physical, Serious, Intelligent, Cocky, Witty, Smart…

The list goes on. The point is that YOU get to choose from an early age what attributes to adopt into your personality.

The cool this is that it doesn’t matter which attributes you have NOW, you can create habits to change them.

Its like a video game. You just earn more points in certain areas.

You are not different to a high class athlete who can shoot and score but no goal-keeping skills. Do you suck because you can’t goal keep - HELL NO! You can shoot goals. The same goes for vice versa.

Which is why RSD is so amazing. RSD is about discovering what attributes you want to attract the girls you want and how to do it.

Look at Jeffy, Ryan, Brad, Tyler, Ozzie… where are their “points” allocated?

This week is about looking honestly at ourselves and where our points lie.

I am starting a thread on RSDnation on Character Points, so we can create a master list of attributes that a man can have.

Head over there now and add some that aren’t already there. Then we can start building our characters from items in that list.

Make Sense?

Good. Head over now. More on this next week!

 

nT

 

PS. Quick update on Tim’s world. I am working on a new EP at the moment which I will make free for my Natural Tim readers for a short time! It means that Tim is underground and not going out as much - which HURTS - but it is necessary at the moment.

The SOUL BASELINE LEVEL for Flawless Natural Living

 

Hey there,

You are not going to believe what I have in store for you Flawless Natural livers.

This is something that our RSD homeboy Ryan and I have been discussing at length lately and I decided it was time to be unleashed for you to think about as well.

This is HIGH LEVEL FLAWLESS NATURAL SKILLSET stuff here. The highest level concept of the FN living plan. To be honest I’m not sure if you can handle it yet… if you truly understand what I am teaching today then you and I are very much alike.

This is one of my favorite and probably one of the most important concepts you will need to understand if you want abundant success in dating beautiful women for the rest of your life.

 

Take a journey with me for a moment…

You walk into a trendy upscale bar in midtown Manhattan.

As you enter you feel the room glowing with warmth and excitement of a brilliant evening.

There are more gorgeous women in here than you could count. To your left is a line of groups all standing against the wall with their cocktails and drinks. The girls are in stunning flowing dresses as it is summer and the finest of women all show as much skin as they can, in a classy way.

To your right is the amazing cocktail bar with well dressed bartenders politely and skillfully pouring multiple colored liquids into tall glasses. Girls are sitting with their men along this bar, the glisten in their eye as they get more tipsy and anticipate the fun night to come.

The place is buzzing. A DJ spins some deep urban upbeat sounds with smooth vocal snips that echo across the room.

People turn to you as they naturally do when somebody new enters the room. An amazing brunette at the bar looks you right in the eye just as you look left at a slim attractive blonde who seems to be staring at you - she looks away sharply as soon as you notice her glance.

Now what?

What happens next is not determined by how many women you have had in the past. It is not determined by the way you are dressed or how you physically look. It is not determined by your job or how much money you have. It is not determined by the problems or multiple troubles that you have in your life. It is not determined upon what state you are in.

What happens next is verifiably determined by one measurable item only: Your SOUL BASELINE LEVEL or “SBL”.

Each an every man on this planet has something that has been pretty much immeasurable and indescribable: The SOUL.

The soul is why Lance Armstrong got back on the bike. The soul is why Michael Jordan or Bruce Lee fought against everyone around them to drive for what they believed in. The soul is what you see in Brad Pitt’s eyes when he is playing one of his many amazing characters. 

Every man on this planet has one and can feed, nurture and encourage it to make anything and everything happen.

It can either be something that you feel within every fiber of your being every single day or something that is a vague feeling in the background that you suppress with the many forms of societies escapism that is on offer 24/7 (television, junk food, petty bullshit).

Girls are hyper sensitive to changes in a man’s soul. They read it like a book when they see you walk in the room. It is as real as the metabolic physical rate. It beats like a heart for all the world to feel and hear when you are around.

You see it too. You know when somebody is smiling at you from their soul, or simply just giving you a smile with nothing behind it.

You know when a girl opens up and is letting her soul pour out for only you to take, or when she is simply just saying words like “I love you” for the sake of it.

The soul is what makes being alive on this planet so damn real and amazing. To put it simply, the soul is the life of the world and how it moves forward. This is why having soul is the single most attractive thing to a woman, or anybody, that any man can possess.

The times where I have pulled off amazing feats of pickup in the club are when my soul is at the forefront. You can see it in my eyes in the flawless natural. I am not saying that I am any better than anyone, in fact, I am still in soul development mode right now and I want you to come along with me!

 

It is now time for you to understand and develop your own soul.

The way I understand it, is that your individual soul is made up of things that you, in the most purest form, do for yourself.

Now don’t take the above line lightly. It sounds so simple and you may think you do a lot for yourself, when in face the truth is otherwise.

The soul is fed and grows upon things that you do, in the most purest form, for yourself.

Think about the last time you did something physical. Running, Riding, Gym. Hopefully it wasn’t too long ago! 

What were the reasons that you did that physical activity?

Was it to look awesome for the ladies? To look good for other people? To meet expectations on what is good looking? Did you do it because you see other people who you want to be and then try to copy them or be like them?

OR Did you do it because it makes you feel alive on this earth? Did you do it because it purely makes you feel awesome and powerful afterward? Did you do it because you want to have increased energy to do all the amazing things that YOU want to do?

Does Brad pitt or Mark Wahlberg need to work out? They are married with kids so they don’t get up early and hit it hard every morning if it is for the ladies. I read a quote from Mark on going to the gym a while ago and he said simply “I just get up early, eat my egg whites, and hit the gym hard. I JUST GET IT DONE…”

This is done purely for himself and not a single other person on the planet. Is he selfish? Yes. Is selfishness a good thing? you decide.

Doing things absolutely for your own self and nobody else is  a form of selfishness that feeds your own soul. On a surface level it makes you UNREACTIVE to the whims of others.

Some examples are going off and meditating in a garden for 20mins. Reading a book. Eating an amazingly healthy meal. Playing golf.

It can also mean choosing something way outside your comfort zone and totally different to what people would think or expect of you, like joining a weekly adventure sport such as rock climbing. The whole reason you are reading this post means you are doing something to for yourself, you are getting good with girls and that is a selfish thing too. GO YOU!

For more information or amazing soul food visit any Ayn Rand novel: Atlas Shrugged, Anthem and Fountainhead are amazing.

So, back to the “SBL” and how it works.

Back to our story in the midtown Manhattan bar… A couple of girls have looked at you. They see a quality in you that is not in the other men. They see fire in your eyes. They feel a massive presence in you. People turn and glance at you for just that little bit longer than a normal person. They wonder what it is about you. They can’t put their finger on it but you are strangely alluring. “What-is-it-about-him?” they think to themselves.

You are totally unreactive and are so comfortable in your own skin you are almost laughing to yourself at how carefree and present you are.

This is because your SBL is high. You have been at the gym and riding a bike all week. You worked hard to afford the cool threads that you just bought to roll out in. You take care of your grooming precisely and are excited about the adventures that you could provide do a woman who is daring to go with you. For a girl to reject you would almost be ridiculous at this point. Silly them. Oh well, on to the next lucky one. It is inevitable that I go home with a beautiful girl tonight. Everything is in its right place.

 

Get the picture?

 

So this week we are focusing on REGULAR ACTIVITIES to increase your SOUL BASELINE LEVEL.

These are things that you MUST DO every DAY or WEEK to make sure you are ON POINT and FEELING GOOD.

 

I want you to post or write down three things, that if done every week you will be happy that you completed.

 

One must be PHYSICAL. The rest can be anything you want them to be.

Next week I share some of the personal things I do to raise my own SBL.

 

Have a great week, and let your SOUL GLOW he he he.

 

nT

The Glimpse of Glory phenomenon

 

Hey there,

SOUL GLOWING TIMES!

How are you going with the opener of desire?

Much love to the guys who dedicated themselves to trying it out.

I really love that I have a forum to communicate to you and other users of the flawless natural methodology.

This week I am going to answer some questions from the previous week but also give you something very special that I have never talked about, but always knew. Its a secret phenomenon called ‘The Glimpse of Glory’ and I am sure you have felt it at some point but haven’t harnessed its power.

So first of all, thanks for the entertainment of ‘Matty Balls’, Jon B and Goldenchild for their interesting and awesome field reports.

The correlation that all of these had was the ‘click’ moment where you are in the middle of testing or using this material when approaching a girl and all of a sudden a short burst of awareness happens where you think “THIS IS WHAT IS IS ALL ABOUT!”.

Im sure that you have had it too.

You approach a girl and irrespective of the outcome of the approach, you got a small GLIMPSE OF GLORY.

It could happen just as you see the girl. It could happen as you are walking up, or the very second you stop her before you have said anything. It could also happen five minutes into the conversation.

It can even happen as the girl walks away after rejecting you.

Your body relaxes, it smiles to itself and you get a small, sharp time warp moment that looks into the future and says “YOU ARE GOING TO BE AWESOME AT THIS”.

It is the weirdest feeling. It doesn’t normally last longer than a second.

It is free of analyzation, theory or thought. You simply just KNOW that all will be ok.

Maybe you screwed up this approach, but you gained massive insight into how not to screw up the next one.

This is the beauty of the guys that are out there putting this stuff into practice and why approaching girls you are attracted to is such a fun and fulfilling thing to do.

So next time you do an approach, look for it. Look for that one sharp point where your body and mind have one big “UH-HUH!” moment. It happens EVERY TIME. That is the Glimpse of Glory and that is why you will get your vision.

Now, revisiting last week I had a number of questions on what to do if she says “I have a boyfriend”.

I cannot possible theorize on the whole spectrum of responses, unlocking some sort of code in a keyboard jockey type way. But what I can do is tell you what I have done in that situation.

1. She clearly likes you but clearly does have a boyfriend. This is clear because she still wants to chat and has a big smile on her face.

Tim’s response: Make her a friend and get her number or get out of there, leaving her to her BF.

2. She looks weirded out and says “I have a boyfriend”. This means you haven’t come across cool enough BUT could also mean she has a boyfriend.

Tim’s response: Get playful to see if she warms up. “DO you want another one?” is a typical humor type response that I detail in Flawless Natural.

If she still isn’t warm or polite to you this is why:

1. She is having a bad day or just plain SUCKS. Careful not to use this as an excuse for a bad approach.

2. You did a bad approach. You look weird, uncomfortable or sound canned. You know it yourself. If you have that feeling of awkwardness inside she will feel it and this can damage your results.

In the case of number two, listen to the Glimpse of Glory and use that for fuel to your next approach!

After all… relax and smile, you are just socializing.

Im giving you the week off in terms of a mission, because I have something pretty cool lined up next week.

Have a glimpse of glory day!

nT

Flawless Natural Living Plan: Opener of desire (…oh and pain)

 

Welcome back to the glorious land of the naturals.

Today is an amazing day. First I want to enlighten you on the pain of the game. Then back this up with some true glory - my very own opener of desire. Pretty much all I ever use when approaching these days.

To kick things off, I have just finished reading ‘It’s not about the bike’ by Lance Armstrong. If you haven’t read it, I thought it was an easy and really good read. You will knock it over in a day and get a very big appreciation for a hero and his mindsets.

 

Here is a quote from him:

 

“Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, an hour, a day or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it will last forever.”

 

It happens to you all the time. You go out. You approach girls. Sometimes it hits like FIRE, sometimes it doesn’t.

 

The one thing you should know about pain is if you choose it and choose to bear it knowing its rewards at the end - it will be inevitable that you get them.

 

Wow I remember so many nights where I would go home empty handed. Or having been shunned by every girl in the club.

 

But do you know what? the pain only went down so far. You should never let it consume you or take you over.

 

Why?

 

Because you have CHOSEN to feel that pain. Those tough nights, the loneliness, the struggle.

 

You have chosen it because of the REWARD at the end. Your VISION.

 

This is why the pain only went down so far. Because I always had my vision there to back me up.

If I sucked one night - so what - maybe I wont suck tomorrow, or next month, or next year.

 

Getting rejected by this girl or that girl became LAUGHABLE because I knew that somewhere around the corner BOOM… I would reap all the rewards.

 

So welcome to the new year, mr natural.

 

You have no way of knowing what’s in store for you this year. What adventures lie around the corner. What amazing gorgeous girl you are going to meet.

Hey, she is probably just around the corner.

 

So this week is dedicated to a bit of light motivation while you recover and regroup after having a big new year period, as I certainly did.

 

Personally I went back to the gym today and am back eating my same meals a day. My soul is smiling.

 

Me and my friends have new sayings… “Soul Glow” and “Soul Frown”.

 

Like when you are stuck in an airport with a big ass delay = Soul Frown

When you find 20 bucks in a pocket that you didn’t know was there = Soul Glow

 

So add that to the Flawless natural vocabulary!

 

“Oh man after I read that post today I had full soul glow”

“Oh man I approached this girl Susie and got shut down, SOUL FROWN! ah well”

 

Well then. On to your in field mission this week:

 

I have an opener I want you to use. This is from my personal repertoire of glory. Use wisely.

This is pretty much along the lines of which I open with ALL THE TIME.

 

For those that have seen the Flawless Natural, you will remember me talking about looking at a girl before you approach and really letting yourself ENJOY her. Look at her ass, her face, her body and really SOAK IT UP as a MAN before you approach.

Something inside you should click “Oh yes… this is for me”.

 

I want you do feel this the next time you see a girl who you like, in the club, or whatever… then walk right up and say:

 

“Hey… you know what… I just couldn’t continue my day unless I met you”

***pause wait for blush/reaction***

“I was just walking along, minding my own business and then I saw you and went WHOA I have to meet this girl or I would kick myself”.

“I’m Tim”.

 

Now. Do not run this through your head and picture it going amazingly and having the girl swooning in your arms. Also don’t throw “what if she is in a group”, “what if she is on the moon and I cannot reach her” typer scenarios at me. That is rubbish. JUST GO. GROUP OR NO GROUP OR MOON JUST GO!!!

 

I want you, before next weeks post, to go out and TRY THIS OUT IN REAL LIFE.

 

Then come back and report in the comments section here. I will read these personally and actually reply to those who tried this out in next weeks post.

 

Oh I AM SO EXCITED FOR YOU.

 

This will be awesome.

 

nT

 

PS. Happy NEW YEAR woooooop!