Flawless Natural Living Plan: Opener of desire (…oh and pain)
Welcome back to the glorious land of the naturals.
Today is an amazing day. First I want to enlighten you on the pain of the game. Then back this up with some true glory - my very own opener of desire. Pretty much all I ever use when approaching these days.
To kick things off, I have just finished reading ‘It’s not about the bike’ by Lance Armstrong. If you haven’t read it, I thought it was an easy and really good read. You will knock it over in a day and get a very big appreciation for a hero and his mindsets.
Here is a quote from him:
“Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, an hour, a day or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it will last forever.”
It happens to you all the time. You go out. You approach girls. Sometimes it hits like FIRE, sometimes it doesn’t.
The one thing you should know about pain is if you choose it and choose to bear it knowing its rewards at the end - it will be inevitable that you get them.
Wow I remember so many nights where I would go home empty handed. Or having been shunned by every girl in the club.
But do you know what? the pain only went down so far. You should never let it consume you or take you over.
Why?
Because you have CHOSEN to feel that pain. Those tough nights, the loneliness, the struggle.
You have chosen it because of the REWARD at the end. Your VISION.
This is why the pain only went down so far. Because I always had my vision there to back me up.
If I sucked one night - so what - maybe I wont suck tomorrow, or next month, or next year.
Getting rejected by this girl or that girl became LAUGHABLE because I knew that somewhere around the corner BOOM… I would reap all the rewards.
So welcome to the new year, mr natural.
You have no way of knowing what’s in store for you this year. What adventures lie around the corner. What amazing gorgeous girl you are going to meet.
Hey, she is probably just around the corner.
So this week is dedicated to a bit of light motivation while you recover and regroup after having a big new year period, as I certainly did.
Personally I went back to the gym today and am back eating my same meals a day. My soul is smiling.
Me and my friends have new sayings… “Soul Glow” and “Soul Frown”.
Like when you are stuck in an airport with a big ass delay = Soul Frown
When you find 20 bucks in a pocket that you didn’t know was there = Soul Glow
So add that to the Flawless natural vocabulary!
“Oh man after I read that post today I had full soul glow”
“Oh man I approached this girl Susie and got shut down, SOUL FROWN! ah well”
Well then. On to your in field mission this week:
I have an opener I want you to use. This is from my personal repertoire of glory. Use wisely.
This is pretty much along the lines of which I open with ALL THE TIME.
For those that have seen the Flawless Natural, you will remember me talking about looking at a girl before you approach and really letting yourself ENJOY her. Look at her ass, her face, her body and really SOAK IT UP as a MAN before you approach.
Something inside you should click “Oh yes… this is for me”.
I want you do feel this the next time you see a girl who you like, in the club, or whatever… then walk right up and say:
“Hey… you know what… I just couldn’t continue my day unless I met you”
***pause wait for blush/reaction***
“I was just walking along, minding my own business and then I saw you and went WHOA I have to meet this girl or I would kick myself”.
“I’m Tim”.
Now. Do not run this through your head and picture it going amazingly and having the girl swooning in your arms. Also don’t throw “what if she is in a group”, “what if she is on the moon and I cannot reach her” typer scenarios at me. That is rubbish. JUST GO. GROUP OR NO GROUP OR MOON JUST GO!!!
I want you, before next weeks post, to go out and TRY THIS OUT IN REAL LIFE.
Then come back and report in the comments section here. I will read these personally and actually reply to those who tried this out in next weeks post.
Oh I AM SO EXCITED FOR YOU.
This will be awesome.
nT
PS. Happy NEW YEAR woooooop!
January 5th, 2009 at 9:18 pm
Hey Tim!
First of all, great blog! Second, I have tried this many times, and I would like to say that if you do it alot, you will get more and more posetive responses, and when you DO get a posetive response on that kind of intent-opener, the girs attraction goes jumping in the air! And the feeling you get afterwords is f”#!% awesome!
Thanks for inspiration!
-ICON
January 5th, 2009 at 9:29 pm
Tim, I just finished your flawness natural presentation in one sitting - loved it.
I tried your glorious text messages and sent em off to the 10 numbers I got this weekend. One of the responses was particularly memorable:
From Dezzy: “You’re friggin deranged. Bet you’ve heard that before.”
It’s funny because then I tell her “your shit” and we end up having some fun text message banter and who knows where things will go from here. Just wanted to let you know.
I’ll also post a comment up later this week about how this new deranged opener you use works. Cheers from Canada.
January 5th, 2009 at 11:51 pm
GODDAMN I AM EXCITED.
I can’t wait.
January 6th, 2009 at 9:10 am
Hey Tim…
thank you for this post. Last night in the club it was very frustrating for me. On my way back home, I was sitting in the tram with my friend. I was breaking out in tears (even when I write this, I’m fighting back one’s tears).
Sometimes it can be very painful. In this moment I knew: I will keep on going and I WILL reach my reward. But in this moments it just sucks.
Probably I put a lot of pressure on me…
Greetings from Germany
Felix
January 6th, 2009 at 9:11 am
I don’t know if this counts, but I normally go direct on a girl and keep the intent-opener shorter. I usually just say:
“Hey i thought u were really cute and had to come by and say hi… im Jim”
Is the new opener special because we are supposed to copy it nearly all word by word?
The main obstacle i get after going direct is that the girl says “ohhhh thanks… i have a boyfriend though :(” — but she is still standing there interested to talk and feels glorious!.
Is there a way you usually handle that in case they dont have a bf?
Thanks, ur the best Tim!
-JimSmith
January 6th, 2009 at 11:03 am
Love the soul glow. It’s one of those great experiences of life.
“Hey, this feels great. My soul is glowing!”
Hope life is good dude. Stay awesome.
John~
January 6th, 2009 at 1:20 pm
Hey Tim.
Tried the opener on a gorgeous girl, but the problem is, as I see it, that these girls have heard these comments a hundred times. She touched her hair, smiled and looked really uncomfortable.
I’ve watched your presentation, and I must say they are really inspiring:) On the other hand, I really need to work on thinking less.”What would they think of me” etc. Any tips?
Thanks.
January 6th, 2009 at 2:50 pm
THATS JUST WHAT IM DOING :O
awesome .
I love how this blog among other things makes me childishly excited !
January 6th, 2009 at 5:20 pm
I love the term, “Soul Glow”. Just thinking it seems to make my soul glow a little more
January 6th, 2009 at 5:50 pm
awesome stuff Tim, love that Armstrong’s quote
January 6th, 2009 at 7:08 pm
I think I’ve narrowed down the reason why this line can work for only some guys, and some guys can say whatever they want.
It’s because you gotta have the FLAWLESS FACIAL EXPRESSION when you do it.
Tim, yours seems kind of like a near-smile, bright-eyed look. Mine is almost like an uncontrollable, knowing grin.
I actually used that to open up two girls on the dancefloor. I went up and started dancing beside them. They almost instinctively shy’d away like ‘OH SHIT a chode’, but then I just planted my feet, gave them my knowing smile and waved to them, and they were just like “OH okay hes cool!” and I was in.
So I think if you’re gunna go direct-intent approach on a girl, your intent should show more in your body than in the actual specific words you speak.
“I was just walking along, minding my own business and then I saw you and went WHOA I have to meet this girl or I would kick myself” = THIS WORKS if you’re not just saying it with your voice. Your body language should say it too, but not in a needy way. More like, your body is PROUD of how strong your intent is.
January 6th, 2009 at 7:56 pm
nice one I’m on it! out of the clubs for now so it will have to be a day time thing, pretty much what im doing hummmmm the next girl I say this to might be a minature cherrish Im not down for big time cherishing right now
January 6th, 2009 at 11:14 pm
Hey I’ve been using your opener. Well honestly I only used it like 4 times but it took a LOT out of me. I never did that before. But I just had one question that caused a huge problem for me afterwards, I mean it works great sometimes but..
Then what?
January 7th, 2009 at 12:10 am
Hey TIM,
So here is my field report for this one!
-I go into borders books and get the Lance Armstrong book. (I am a biker too, so this was great)
-I sit down and read the first chapter to see if I like it.
-A cute brunette girl with tight spandex pants and high brown boots walks up to were I am sitting and starts browsing the books.
-She smells amazing and looks like a VERY intriguing girl.
-I bust out the opener.
-She laughs and fiddles around nervously.
-I ask her what kinda book she is getting and she tells me ALLLL aabout what she likes.
-I tell her I am reading Lance Armstrong but he is talking to much about his testicles.
-She laughs, so I number close on the high point and leave to buy the book.
-I text her later and we talk.
-We agree to meet up at the book store to have hot chocolate and hang…
-Until then!!!!!!!
-BTW- my lance armstrong book is now my book of magnetic glory. hahhah
BTW. check out my thread on RSD nation… “Matty’s flawless natural living plan”
I am going all out!
lata tim!
-Matty
January 7th, 2009 at 1:26 am
First girl I approached worked at a purse booth. (she was reading a book) I opened her by asking her which purse she thought would suit me best. She laughed. I then told her I just really had to meet her, etc. Asked her name, gave her mine. Played it naturally (REALLY WANTED TO RUN LINES ON HER but didn’t). Asked her what she was reading, just a lot of fluff talk. Found out she was still in high school (a senior). Got on the topic of how all the people at her high school were more southern/country (I live in Tennessee) so I joked around with her by telling her she needed to wear overhauls (spelling). I didn’t number close her because I felt iffy about her age. Overall it was a fun convo.
Second conversation was a jewelry sales associate at a JC Penny inside the mall. My buddies were with me but I just walked off to go talk to her, something was compelling me! I go up to the counter and she smiles and asks if there’s anything she can help me with. I reply with “Yea, I need to find a ring for my baby momma.” I think she took me SERIOUSLY, so I followed up with, no, really I just had to meet you. I’m Jon what’s your name.” She gave me her name but I forgot it (I notice that this is a big sticking point in that I’m inside my head a lot and that’s why I forget girls names). I ask her if its been busy and she says its been pretty dead since Christmas eve. I ask her if she saw any women brawling over rings and she laughs and says no but that two women were arguing. I ask her if she tried to get them to fight each other and she says no, that she isn’t a very aggressive person (or something along those lines). I look at her with a sly grin and tell her “I don’t know you look kinda feisty. Then I held my hands out in front of myself and I reply…WHOA…I FEEL YOUR POWER. And she just starts laughing and looks away from me. I ask her what the most expensive ring is blah blah and that’s when I notice the ring on her finger, turns out she’s engaged, so I didn’t number close her but it was nice to be able to brighten her day. I catch up with my buddies and we’re lookin at clothes and I notice her walk by me from about 20 feet away and her body looked amazing (I couldn’t really tell because she was behind the jewelry counter). She was def. a turbo as you would say.
By this point I was really starting to feel energy shooting up from my core. “YES, YES THIS IS WHAT IT IS ABOUT” I said to myself.
As I mentioned earlier some friends were with me and I was trying to get them to approach as well, I spotted a girl, neither of them would do it so I decided I’ll do it myself. She worked in a female clothing bag shop thingy. I pick up a purse and ask her what does she think? She tells me that she thinks pink is more my color. I put the purse down and walk over and tell her that I seen her through the window and that I had to meet her. I introduce myself, we get to talking. She seems a bit nervous so I ask if a girl works there that I use to know. She’s like “oh you know them, ok.” She then proceeds to read my shirt and laughs. My shirt says “I kissed a girl and I liked it.” You may have heard the line before because it’s a song by the singer Katy Perry. Anyways, after she reads it I point to my cheek and she tells me that she has a boyfriend. This stifled me a bit and I ended up leaving the interaction soon after.
What I learned basically from the three approaches is that its OK to display that you are attracted to the girl and that she will stay in set as long as you’re a cool guy (granted I approached girls that were at their job and couldn’t really leave). Secondly, I had never asked for any type of kiss whether it be on the lips or on the cheek that early on. And the worst thing that happened was that she said that she had a boyfriend. I’m def. going to keep going out and be in the moment and use my desire for women as fuel. Thanks man for posting this blog mission. Any feedback would be gratefully welcomed!
Jon B from Tennessee.
January 7th, 2009 at 7:36 pm
A lot of guys here keep talking about walking out when the girl mentions a boyfriend..
Have you guys heard of boyfriend destroyers? or shit tests?
If Tim reads this, I’d like to know his method/philosophy on getting around the ‘I have a boyfriend’ remark.. whether its the truth or a shit test?
January 11th, 2009 at 1:42 am
Awesome, Tim. I’ll try this out as soon as I get back to school.
January 11th, 2009 at 4:56 pm
yo! great opener. After BC i was using more direct approaches and doin the whole bubble of love deal, worked awesome and plenty of snl’s. Recently though my game has mostly been super laid back/high presence and A.D.D. in the club. This was fun to go back to the older FN style…Here’s one use from this past week:
Walking home from crushin’ at the gym and was super gross. Bumped into a girl from college who i kinda flopped it with one night by being reactive and leaving her at the club lol. that was prior to all of this stuff. spotted a serious hottie eyeing me despite my sweaty attire.
She’s walking behind me and I’m in front so I FULL turn around and start walking backward and go, “yo! i felt your aura behind me and coudn’t continue my day until i met you.” Soul Glow obviosly. From there, pure $$ and gonna hang out with her this week. (She’s a model for Elite. Holler.) My new neighborhood is full of models during the day which is the PERFECT time for this opener = MOVIE MOMENT!
January 13th, 2009 at 3:24 am
I tried this out and it was great!
Thanks alot, its very simple but yet very potent. I got good results every time ive used it so far!
March 24th, 2009 at 8:53 am
Ok so I saw a cute girl walk into the mall area walking up to a vending machine and I thought “Damn she’s cute” and then my next thoughts were ” Should I go? Damn I HAVE TO GO!” So I went and I felt really nervous. I walked up to her and said ” Hey! “. She turned and I began to ask her a few questions trying to figure out if she was a student or whateever. And finally I said ” Well, I thought you were cute, and I had to come and talk to you” .. She immediatly turned her face away, and said “Ok bye” lol
I can already see a few sticky points there, what do you think?